I left our date and thought about my own ex-dates and the number of them who were hot and cold...one minute they wanted to move in and the next they were ready to have an open relationships. I’m the type of person that likes to be in the middle yet I attract people who seem to run for the extremes. I attract freaky stalkers but chase after guys who are interested in me. Was I the one who was playing the games? Was the game how not to find long lasting love? or was I just around too many game players? I wondered. For the time being...I was only going to play sex games. I would keep my heart under wraps.

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Human beings are trained at an early age to identify the “odd thing or person out.” In Kindergarten we learn to identify which thing does not belong in a set of group...apple, pear, banana or car....which one is not a fruit? Good! As adults, many couples try to find out why one single does not belong with another single..to make a couple. Therefore there are endless discussions about your singlehood and endless matchmaking attempts to create another couple of couples. I have to admit I did think how nice it would be to be here with a partner. It is romantic to cuddle up in the crisp air of winter while sampling amazing wines. Or maybe it would be great to show affection while in a hot tub overlooking the valley. Yes, even dinner tables are made in couples...2, 4, 6 or 8. But I was at a place where I had come to terms with my singlehood. It’s not depression. There is no need for “treatment” or for things to be “dealt” with....like my family..my friends just want me to be happy and they have seen me happiest in a relationship. This is something that I want to change. I’ve been either in a relationship or looking for a relationship for the last 10 years. I’ve been using energy and time for external sources of happiness...always looking out instead of looking in.

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I had a date with my perfect woman last night. Fiona was one of those girls who seemed to have it all. She was pretty, older, great job and career. She’s the type any parents would love. Her job had taken her all over the world. She had lived in the USA, Latin America but had moved back to Sydney to be closer to her family. She was smart and funny...yet like many 30 something women in Sydney...single! We went for dinner and a movie. It was great. If I were straight I’d like to have ended up with a woman like her...ambitious...funny and sexy. I think many guys find her intimidating. Older successful women in Sydney have two choices: settle for less or move to Melbourne to find a man. There is a man drought in Sydney....a drought of nice straight and gay men. Actually there are a lot of gay men...but most of them are after fun.

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So Fiona was telling me about her latest boy. She was a bit down after being dumped. She was not actually sure if she had been dumped as the guy had disappeared on her. He was a hot and cold guy. He would be intense...calling her all the time...bringing her flowers....dates....staying over...then disappear for a few weeks...then appear again and the cycle could continue over and over...that is until a month ago when the guy disappeared for good. The weird thing is that he was more into her then she was into him...and that the guy was a clinical psychologist! Even the psychologists are crazy!!!! She was left dumbfounded....what had she done wrong? She kept playing the ending in her head over and over. WTF? she wondered....hot and cold. Multiple personalities??? She even contacted the guy’s work to check he was not dead...as this was one possible reason as to why he dropped off the face of the earth. She called him many times, left many messages but the guy never returned them. There was a pattern to this guy...the hot and cold. He was clearly playing some sort of mind games.

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Language and labels can be pretty exact....you can tell what kind of relationship you have by the label you or he uses it to describe it. If someone calls you a “flatmate” you pretty much know there is no real romantic relationship. “let’s just be friends,” means...I never want to see you naked. “You’re a great fuck,” means let’s keep it physical. “Boyfriend” can be promising...dating...fun..making out. “Partner” is serious...let’s look for a house, pet or surrogate mother. “Bi guy” means I’m confused and I want pussy every once in a while. Labels do matters as much as most of us hate them. Language and labels simply things...they give it meaning and put it into context.

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